Self love isn’t just about feeling good.
Self love has a lot to do with gratitude and – difficult for many of us – a lot to do with accepting ourselves just the way we are. With all our faults and imperfections. And even though you might hear a voice in your ear whispering that self love is selfish, my advice is to ignore it completely. I spent years and years believing it was selfish and that was not at all healthy for me.
Self love means spending time being good to ourselves by taking time out to be alone without feeling guilty. It also means time for self reflection. It is important to create time for what brings you joy and happiness – that being going for walks by yourself, going to the spa or wellness center, writing, singing, day dreaming etc. Whatever works for you, and combined with a lot of gratitude for what you have and gratitude for who you are and what you have overcome – and become. You will no doubt see things with a fresh perspective after having some quiet time all by yourself.
Another easy way to practice self love is through meditation—it helps with stress relief and improve your overall mental health as well as your energy levels. I tried a few times over the years, but was never very good at meditating so never did it on a regular basis. A few months ago, I accepted a challenge to meditate for 100 days. 100 days!!! It took several attempts from my friend, before I decided to give it a try knowning that if I said yes, I would also do it. Whether I hated every minute of it or not. And, writing this I am on day 97. I actually surprised myself very much, because I enjoy it. In the beginning, it was difficult to concentrate but I realized that after the half our mark something very special happens. The energy and consciousness changes. So I continued, and I am very happy about it.
You get to know yourself a lot better during the self love and meditation process, and that is a very important step. Your mind gets clearer during the meditation, and spending time by yourself recharges your energy so you can help others without getting drained yourself. Just like you have to help yourself first with the oxygen mask on an airplane in case of an emergency – and then help your children or co-passengers afterwards. You have to fill yourself up with energy first before you give to others to avoid getting totally drained. I wish I had known that a lot earlier as well.
Spending time alone will help make sure your mind is clear and focused on what matters most in your life: YOU! We are incarnated to work on ourselves, and if we make too much ”noise” and ignore spending quiet time with ourselves, we miss that chance – and the whole point of being here.
So, go out in the world and do whatever makes you happy and feel good, – sprinkled with a nice dose of gratitude.